Breastfeeding is often described as one of the most natural parts of motherhood — but the truth is, it doesn’t always feel natural at first. Many mums (myself included!) are surprised to find that something so instinctive can actually be incredibly challenging. The reality? Both you and your baby are learning together, and it takes time, patience, and support.
👶 Babies Don’t Just “Know” How to Breastfeed
One of the biggest myths around breastfeeding is that babies are born knowing exactly how to latch and feed perfectly. In reality, they’re learning just like you are. Each baby is different, and sometimes it can take days or even weeks to get into a rhythm. And that’s okay.
➡️ Having the right support tools, such as a nursing pillow or comfortable breastfeeding chair, can make those early days a little easier.
🍼 Some Breastmilk Is Better Than None
Another pressure many mums feel is the idea that breastfeeding has to be “all or nothing.” But here’s the truth: even a little breastmilk makes a difference. If you choose to combination feed — mixing breastfeeding with formula — your baby is still getting valuable nutrients. Expressing and bottle-feeding breastmilk is also a wonderful option, especially for babies who find latching difficult.
➡️ A good quality breast pump and breastmilk storage bags can be lifesavers if you want to build a stash or share feeding responsibilities with your partner.
✨MUM’S TOP TIP – If you’re having trouble with latching you can ask your local breast feeding clinic for free nipple shields. They are a silicone-type material that can be similar to a bottle teet texture for babies who prefer the bottle. You can also buy them online, example below. ✨
⏰ Pumping More Often Creates More Milk
Milk production works on supply and demand 💡. The more often you remove milk — whether through nursing or pumping — the more signals your body gets to produce it.
But remember: it doesn’t mean you need to pump around the clock ⏱️. Every mum’s body responds differently, and rest is just as important as routine.
➡️ A hands-free pump can be a lifesaver for multitasking mums 💪.
💔 Not Every Mum Enjoys Breastfeeding
This is something many women don’t hear enough: not every mum enjoys breastfeeding. And that doesn’t make you any less of a mother. Some find it uncomfortable, overwhelming, or simply not the right fit for their lifestyle.
Formula feeding or combination feeding doesn’t mean you’re failing — it means you’re finding what works best for you and your baby 💜.
🎢 The Emotional Rollercoaster
Beyond the physical challenges, breastfeeding can be an emotional journey. From cracked nipples and sleepless nights to moments of pure closeness and connection — the highs and lows are real. Many mums experience guilt when things don’t go as planned, but it’s important to remember: feeding your baby is what matters, no matter the method.
➡️ Simple comforts like nipple cream, soothing breast pads, and a supportive nursing bra can help ease the discomfort and make the journey more manageable.
✨MUM’S TOP TIP- Breast feeding is exhausting! I created a breastfeed supply box next to the chair i used to feed. I have created a free breastfeeding rescue checklist for you to download below ✨
👶 Benefits for Baby
Breastmilk is often called liquid gold for a reason ✨ — it’s uniquely designed to give your baby the very best start in life.
- Tailor-made nutrition – Breast milk changes its composition depending on your baby’s age and needs (e.g., more antibodies when baby is sick).
- Boosts immunity – It provides antibodies that protect babies from infections, especially in the early months.
- Lower risk of illness – Breastfed babies have reduced risks of ear infections, asthma, allergies, obesity, and type 2 diabetes later in life.
- Brain development – Some studies suggest breastfed babies may have slightly higher IQ scores.
- Digestive support – It’s easier for most babies to digest compared to formula, reducing tummy troubles.
Every feed, no matter how small, is a boost of love and nutrition for your little one 👶💜
🤱 Benefits for Mum
Breastfeeding isn’t just beneficial for babies — it helps mums too. It can:
- Bonding – Skin-to-skin contact during breastfeeding helps strengthen emotional connection.
- Post-birth recovery – It triggers oxytocin, which helps the uterus contract and reduces post-birth bleeding.
- Calorie burn – Breastfeeding can burn 300–500 calories a day.
- Long-term health – It lowers mum’s risk of breast cancer, ovarian cancer, type 2 diabetes, and heart disease.
- Convenient & free – Always the right temperature, no bottles or prep needed.
But remember — these benefits are just one piece of the picture. Your health, happiness, and rest are just as important as your baby’s feeding journey.
💕 You’re Not Alone
Whether you’re exclusively breastfeeding, combination feeding, or choosing formula, know this: you are not alone. Millions of mums have walked this path, each with their own unique story. Seeking support from lactation consultants, midwives, or other mums can make a huge difference.
➡️ Online communities and support books such as The Positive Breastfeeding Book can also provide reassurance and encouragement when you need it most.
💭 Final Thoughts
Breastfeeding is often painted as an effortless bonding experience, but the reality is far more complex — and far more powerful. It’s about resilience, patience, and finding what works for you and your baby. Remember: there is no perfect journey, only your journey.
